Granny always said, “There’s no education like adversity!” While you may enjoy teaching your children at home, there is another part of homeschooling that you may not have bargained for, educating friends and family about homeschooling. Honest inquiries and downright debate can be quite upsetting when you are just beginning to homeschool.
When you first became interested in homeschooling, you probably read everything you could find on the subject. Perhaps you talked to veteran homeschoolers, subscribed to a magazine and joined a support group. During this process you found that homeschoolers are a diverse bunch of folks who are pretty much like everybody else. The one characteristic they share is a willingness to sacrifice for their children’s education.
Your friends and family, on the other hand, may have formed their opinions of homeschooling based on what little they have seen on television or read in the newspaper, or heard as gossip. They may have never met a “real live homeschooler” before, and may have a skewed picture of this person in mind. This leaves you in the unenviable position of enlightening without alienating. Our problem is complicated by the fact that many of us only see our extended families on holidays. Even if you are a great communicator, it is hard to give a presentation about home education between setting the table and carving the turkey!
What we need is a portfolio of homeschooling sound bytes combined with simple public relations. Preparing the sound byte portfolio amounts to memorizing and practicing short answers to common questions. This will help you say what you mean in a clear, friendly way. People are generally more receptive to a single idea or small nugget of truth rather than a long sermon.
When we care about something, sometimes intensity is wrongly interpreted as harshness. Granny always said, “We have a right to disagree, but we don’t have any right to be disagreeable.”
When the conversation rolls around to homeschooling, allow others to voice their concerns without interrupting or becoming upset. Smile, wait, and earn the right to be heard. Use a soft tone of voice. Solomon said, “Pleasant words promote instruction.” (Proverbs 16:21a NIV ) Sweetness of speech coupled with ready responses can open the door for you to teach your loved ones about homeschooling.
Next time I will share my “Homeschooling Soundbytes” with you. Until then,
Do not grow weary in well doing, for in due time we shall reap if we faint not. Galatians 6:9 (My life verse.)